Monday, July 28, 2008

"Be Careful Little Tongue What You Say"

As I was surfing the net this morning, my interest was caught by the news about a jilted lover in Tennessee who took out a newspaper ad and publicly humiliated his fiancee for allegedly breaking off their engagement. The woman was mortified about what her ex had done that she's threatened to file harrassment and slander charges against him as well as sue the newspapers which published the ad.

I am reminded of the song we teach the kids in Sabbath School. The opening line goes, "Oh, be careful little tongue what you say". It is important that we guard our tongues because for such a tiny muscle, the tongue can cause us a lot of trouble and can hurt and destroy lives and relationships.

The Bible warns us against evil-speaking and admonishes us not to associate with tale-bearers and with those "who flatter with their lips".

The song goes on to say, "Oh, be careful little ears what you hear". "He who conceals his hatred has lying lips, and whoever spreads slander is a fool" (Prov. 10:18). A person with a hidden agenda against another will do his best to destroy that person by concocting half-truths or spreading lies against him. And there are people who are good at scheming against others. Therefore, we should carefully discern the stories that we hear, no matter how persuasive the source appears to be. In the past, I have been a victim of lies made up by persons with hidden agenda, but I have always believed that the truth shall prevail and in the end, I will be vindicated.
Relationships are destroyed not only because of lies but also by careless and hurtful comments. "When words are many, sin is not absent; but he who holds his tongue is wise" (Prov. 10:19). For which reason, we are told that if we do not have anything good to say, it is better that we do not say anything at all. Less talk, less mistakes, no talk, no mistakes. Words are like feathers in a pillow which have been torn open and blown in the wind. Trying to get all the feathers back into the pillow is difficult, if not, impossible.

I have tried many times to apply the "no talk, no mistake" rule and that when I am annoyed at someone, I should just simply walk away. Many times, I have failed and have done hurtful things which are difficult to undo. I have been told that I cannot change nor control another person but I can change and control my reaction towards that person. The only person that I can change is myself. My constant prayer- that I be given the wisdom to discern things and the power to control myself.

"Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit" - Desiderata


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